IF I SEE “CONSENT IS SEXY” ONE MORE TIME I AM GOING TO SCREAM. CONSENT IS NOT SEXY, CONSENT IS FUCKING MANDATORY. STOP TRYING TO MARKET THIS IN A WAY THAT DOESN’T DISPLAY HOW FUCKING MANDATORY IT IS TO HAVE CONSENT. IT IS NOT A PLUS. A PERK. A THING THAT DESERVES A COOKIE. IT. IS. FUCKING. MANDATORY.
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I’ve begun silently fighting back against jerks on the subway who sit as spread out as possible. Basically I match your stance.
This guy was sitting on the train with his knees splayed and his hands on the seat to either side of him. So I slowly backed up into the seat next to him forcing him to either move his hand or have me sit on it. Then I spread my knees equally wide and stuck my elbows out just as far.
It’s amazing how uncomfortable this makes men.
Eventually he closed his knees more (so I closed mine.) The ladies across from me noticed this silent warfare and were slightly confused. When he finally got off the train and I sat like a “lady” they realized what I did and grinned at me.
Yep. This is my new thing to do on the subway.
ur a little rebel i like u
You know why most guys sit like that?
It’s a body language signal known as a “crotch display” and it’s used to show dominance/confidence.
This is why guys get uncomfortable when women do this, and also why women are told to sit “like a lady” - basically, without the crotch display. When women do it, they’re telling all the dudes that they’re either stronger or on equal standing with them.
So I say right on, ladies! Go for it.
No, it fucking isn’t. It’s because we have testicles. They’re sensitive to touch and heat. GUESS WHAT HAPPENS WHEN THEY’RE CRAMMED AGAINST A PAIR OF THIGHS. We do it to keep comfortable, not to be oppressive. Jerks.
You expect me to believe that all people with testicles need *three* bus seats’ worth of space to keep from overheating?
Nobody’s asking dudes to bind their legs together, we just want douchebags who refuse to share public space to stop hogging all the room on buses, in waiting rooms, etc. I’ve seen guys doing this when there are elderly ladies standing. It’s called common courtesy. If the bus/train/room is packed full, everyone needs to sacrifice a little personal space and comfort to make it work. Not just women.
tbh i don’t know if i believe in the whole “crotch display” thing. it makes enough sense to me that guys think it’s okay for them to take up more space than they should…